In his profile on the Internet dating site, he describes himself as a godly man who wants a godly, feminine, pretty, submissive woman. He is a believer himself, albeit one who struggles with a few things like pornography…
I wonder if a combination between …
a) a belief that his wife should one-sidedly submit to him
b) an interest in pornography
… makes for the worst kind of husband on the planet?
Logically, it will encourage a man to utterly believe his wife exists only for his pleasure, that he can treat her like an object if he feels like it. (If you are unfamiliar with what “submission” looks like in pornography, I will not enlighten – endarken? – you. Suffice it to say: it is ugly.)
He will also believe that God Himself endorses the idea that a woman exist to do what he wants. As I see it – correct me if I am wrong – a man whose idea of submission comes from pornography and not Christ, and feels strongly his wife should submit one-sidedly, simply cannot be a caring partner. And since he does not see his wife as an equal whose spiritual input counts as much as his, she cannot really help him overcome his addiction and his wrong view of women.
Which brings me to a related thought: Considering the prevalence of pornography, the devastating effects it has, and the ways in which it pictures submission, I believe that it is criminally negligent for sites like the CBMW site, that promote the one-sided submission of wives, to not have many articles against pornography. Any Christian/ “Christian” ministry like CBMW should really – if they are interested in healthy marriages at all (even if me and them don’t quite agree what a healthy marriage look like) – talk about how devastating pornography is; recommend that complementarian women not marry a man with a pornography problem; tell women how to be a helper by standing up against this particular sin problem; and tell men how to view women.
Any Christian/”Christian” organization that promotes one-sided submission, without stating clearly and often – to both genders – how it differs from submission in pornography, lack, IMO, either wisdom or heart. Or perhaps the leaders in such an organization lack both.