Because Christianity is bigger than Biblical manhood or Biblical womanhood (Blog of Retha Faurie)

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A Christianity that hurt, a Christianity that heals – what is the difference?

There is a question I have been asking myself lately: What is the difference between, on the one hand:

a)a faith that justifies slavery or war or spousal abuse, and bind people to silly burn-yourself-out-on-non-essentials rules on what to wear or touch or do

… and, on the other hand:

b) The sort of religion that frees slaves, start orphanages,  but also generally give hope and meaning to the ordinary life that is no Gladys Aylward or William Wilberforce? The religion that will die for Christ, but do not kill the spirits of others because of what they believe is right?

And what is the difference between martyrs who are praised for sticking to their faith, compared to abused wifes who allow their children to be abused because their faith tell them not to leave an abusive husband? Is the difference between a religion with burnout behavior standards (i.e. don’t wear anything that show your collar bone, do home school, obey your husband even when it leads to abuse) and one with ‘sensible’ behavior standards (Don’t dress in such a way as to be confused with a prostitute, do take time to teach your children values, be (mutually) co-operative with your husband) one of degree – being “sold out for Jesus” versus “lukewarm?”

In short, how should a Christian discern between good and bad religion, both dressed as Christianity? I will start by not giving my thoughts, so that I could hear yours. Thanks in advance.

LaCigol and the pastor

One day,LaCigol watches a YouTube clip by a famous pastor. The pastor was asked what a wife should do when her husband abuse her. He answered that a wife should submit to abuse(1), that husbands turn abusive because their wives are not submitting(2), and if a wife is killed while submitting to abuse, it will be to God’s glory.(3)

LaCigol goes to the pastor, and introduces himself as a Bible teacher. The two of them get talking. The pastor likes what LaCigol say, and LaCigol pretends to like what the pastor say. “So”, ask LaCigol, “just to make sure our doctrine line up, what would you say is the most important reason why wives have to submit to their husbands?”

The pastor was ready with his answer: “Because the husband-wife relationship is a mirror image of the relationship between Christ and the church. Wifes should submit to show the world how the church submit to Christ. But surely you know that?”

“Of course,” agreed LaCigol. “I wanted to make sure we agree on this.” Before the end of the conversation, LaCigol was asked to preach in the pastor’s church the next Sunday. (more…)

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