I’ve seen a lot of talk on “Christian” parenting that advocates seeing your children as sinners to be brought under control. As enemies whose will is at war with yours.
They see children and children’s nature as something to conquer and subdue, using force to get obedience. But I would say that a Christian attitude towards your children is very, very different from what people like Debi and Michael Pearl teaches. Consider the following thoughts:
1: We should become like them!
Heavily punitive parenting styles is all about changing the child to be like the parents. To go where the parents want to go. To act as the parents would act. But while there is certainly a place for that in growing towards maturity, there is also truth in the opposite. Jesus said:
Mat 18:3 And said, Verily I say unto you, Except ye be converted, and become as little children, ye shall not enter into the kingdom of heaven.
Are you, in your attempt to make your children like you, forgetting that in some ways, you should (leave them as they are, and) become like them?