I peeked inside a book in the bookstore today. It was named “Woman, thou are loosed.” And the first thing I saw was more or less this:
“Men process facts, and women emotions. It is a sin for a man to be like a woman, or a woman like a man.
1Co 6:9 Know ye not that the unrighteous shall not inherit the kingdom of God? Be not deceived: neither fornicators, nor idolaters, nor adulterers, nor effeminate, nor abusers of themselves with mankind.”
Firstly, it is simply not true that women do not process facts. The mere fact that some females do well in school means they can process facts. Nor is it true that men do not process emotions. The mere fact that some men write great songs, poetry and symphonies prove they can do so. And God never, as far as I know, rebuked men like David or Solomon for emotional acts like songwriting, or women for practical things like feeding their families – accepting the fact that their family needs food.
Secondly, using that verse to say women should not act manly is spurious for at least two reasons.
1) The literal wording is against acting effeminate. If the literal wording is what God meant, then both men and women should act manly.
2) Translators never reached consensus yet on how to translate “effeminate”. It is translated as effeminate, men who have sex with men, or male prostitutes, depending on what translation you use.
Not all translators agree God condemned effeminate men there. But what certainly is not there, is a condemnation of emasculate women.
In the attitude of that writer, I probably sinned now, as I processed facts and thereby allegedly acted like a man. But I had to answer that from a factual perspective because that is how my God-given mind works. And that dilemma – answering to the best of my ability, allegedly sinning by doing so, brings me to my actual topic:
I do not oppose gender role doctrine only because I chose to. Much less do I reject it because I don’t want to listen to God. I oppose Biblical Womanhood because it simply doesn’t make sense. You could as well tell me to cafoob a minoockle bradogally, or to draw square circles. I have no idea how I, a single woman, could live my gender role.
Some say single women should look for husbands to live their gender role, but the simple truth is that there are fewer Christian men than women. I don’t believe God calls people to keep looking for what is just not there.
According to some, a woman is supposed to be emotional and not focused on facts, but Jesus said: “Love the Lord your God with all your heart, soul, strength and mind.” And God happened to give some women good minds, and to suppress it to love God only from their emotions, would be disobedient to that most basic commandment.
This is not about me. I loved Jesus years before hearing of Biblical Womanhood. I won’t stop loving Him even if all the church tell me I should learn to think only like a woman. (How? And why? God does not say it?) This is about other women who are not Christians yet. How many women would follow God if we tell them that to love Jesus, they should live their life shutting off their brain and not processing facts, while simultaneously loving God with all of their minds? How is that possible? For that matter, how could a man love God with all his heart and soul if processing with their emotions counts as effeminate? I pray for women and girls (and men and boys) to be able to come to God unhindered. I pray to be capable of saying: Woman, thou are loosed from those impossible expectations.