> 2 small boxes – Write “boy” on one box, “girl” on the other
> Clear space on a table (if the children are few enough to sit in one row/ circle, or if you are on a stage with them below, clear floor space may be preferred)
> Small pieces of blank paper and a few that already bear the words “house cleaning” “pastor/reverend” (what your church calls a preacher) “Kindness” Bravery” “Making peace” “Making decisions”
> marking pen,
> Your Bible, with bookmarks at Gen 2:18, Rom. 12:6, 1 Cor 14:31, Gal. 5:22 and Heb. 13:6
Show the children the boxes: “Can you think of some games and toys for boys?” After the first answer, write it on a paper. Get a few more answers, writing them all on a paper/ papers. Let the children see as you put the papers in the boy box . “And some games and toys for girls?” Do the same with the girl box.
“This box say “girl”. And girls become women. Can you think of some jobs for women?” Place the answers in the “girl” box. “And some jobs for men?” Place the answers in the correct box.
“Does pastor*/ reverend*/ (what your church calls a preacher) come in one of these boxes” If they (as I hope) do not think it does, tell them many people say it belongs in the boy box. “Does house cleaning belong in one of these boxes? Kindness? Bravery? Making peace? Making decisions?” Put it in the boxes the children indicate.
“Let us see what God says. First, we take all this from the boxes…” Take the papers. Handle them one by one. (Depending on time, attention span and reading skill, each verse could be assigned to one child to look up, so they can read the verses).
Pastor: “1 Cor 14:31 For you can all prophesy in turn so that everyone may be instructed and encouraged. – God wants all Christians to talk of him, when Christians come together. To “prophesy” is to tell of God.”
Kindness, making peace: “Gal. 5:22 But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, forbearance, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, 23 gentleness and self-control. These are good things God wants everyone to be and do.”
Jobs (whether builder or teacher or house cleaning): “Gen 2:18 The Lord God said, “It is not good for the man to be alone. I will make a helper suitable for him.” Help means that God made Adam and Eve to do the same things – you can’t “help” someone with a job if they do not do it. If you help someone to clean the classroom board, you are both cleaning. If you clean the board alone, you are not “helping” to clean the board. Depending on the translation you use, add: “‘Meet for him’ is an old-fashioned way to say she is beside him to do the work. “
Brave: “Heb. 13:6 …we confidently say, “The Lord is my helper, I will not be afraid.” Whether you are a boy or a girl, you could be brave if you know God is with you.”
Competitive activities, like computer games and sports: “Rom. 12:6 We have different gifts, according to the grace given to each of us. Are some girls* good at computer games*? Of course! Gifts and talents are from God, also when you are a boy who is good with cooking* or a girl who runs fast*.”
Something like dolls, Lego, or playing dress-up: “Everyone has different things they like. There are some girls* who love (boy*-labeled activity). There are boys* who don’t like (boy*-labeled activity). We are not going to read the whole Bible now, but God never say girls* should not like (boy*-labeled activity).”
After an activity is discussed, place it’s paper in the area on the table around the boxes: “Girls OR boys COULD/ Girls AND boys SHOULD do this.” (“or” and “could” for games and prefered careers”, “and” and “should” for Christian qualities and responsibilities like keeping homes clean.) “We put it outside the boxes, where both could go for it.” If they mentioned something that is necessarily a one-sex activity. like getting a baby, put that in the right box.
Class prayer: Pray that they will be willing to go for everything God called them to do and to be – not be limited by boxes of what people want them to be.
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*Replace words according to the situation, for example trading “boy” with “girl” and vice versa.
Commenting guidelines: Please note that rehashing any gender role proof texts will be off topic on this thread. If you think I forgot/ ignore anything and should teach gender roles instead, please comment on the correct topic (the appropriate verse you want to remind me of) under favorite complementarian passages.