Religious Patriarchy adds to that: If she is not following the lead of men, she is not fulfilling her reason for existence. Piper, for example, say:
At the heart of mature womanhood is a freeing disposition to affirm, receive, and nurture strength and leadership from worthy men…
There are other problems with Piper’s idea that I won’t unpack now. (For example, how does this definition of mature womanhood differ from how a 5-year old girl who loves her dad responds to him? What is the difference, to Piper, between an adult woman and a preschooler?)
For now, I will only ask: How does a woman follow men, if they say anything and everything she does or fails to do is wrong? The only answer, if you do not leave patriarchy behind, is to take one man (a husband, a father, usually) as your authority, and obey him instead of other men. In that way, religious patriarchy benefits from woman-blaming in secular culture, and cannot oppose it.