I heard a new one today:
“God charged the man to take the lead for establishing a marriage and a new household (Gen. 2:24). This further proves male headship.”
Genesis2:24 That is why a man leaves his father and mother and is united to his wife, and they become one flesh.
What a prime example of reading into the text what you want to see! Here are two examples of men leaving parents and cleaving to a wife:
- Anne goes to Bob and his parents: “Come along, Bob”, she says. “I want you to marry me.” Bob leaves his parents and marry Anne
- Charles goes to Edna (who may or may not live with her parents): “Come along, Edna,” he says. “I want you to marry me.” Charles leaves his parents and marry Edna.
Regardless of who took charge, the man still left his parents. Even the “establishing a new household” is reading with contemporary lenses: A young couple usually lived with family in Bible times. They usually did not start a new household upon marriage. Never, in the Bible, does God complain of couples not starting new households. The text does not say God called either the man or the woman to establish new households – if they move in with her parents (or other family) he still left his father and mother.
If you really want to read into this text, you could as well read it this way:
“God wants men to only leave parents once they have a wife to take care of them. This is evidence of how men cannot survive without a mother/ wife to take charge.”
But this example of bad eisegesis is not being spread anywhere. It does not serve male interests, but the “men charged with taking initiative and starting a new household” does.