Egalitarians believe men and women are equals before God. Complementarians believe they are equal, but have different roles. The majority of secularists in the Western world will say they believe men and women are equally worthy as people, but they would not add the “before God” part. If you want to see if your community really believe this, there is a simple test you can do:
Think of the next time your group will meet, whether the meeting is a church sermon, a meeting, a convention, a children’s Sunday class, or whatever. At that meeting, ask the women (girls, if it is a group of children):
“Imagine someone calling you a man (boy, in the case of children). Would you feel insulted?”
Note how many or few women would, indeed, be insulted if they were called a man.
After that, ask the men (boys, if it is a group of children):
“Imagine someone calling you a woman (girl, in the case of children). Would you feel insulted?”
Note how many or few men would, indeed, be insulted if they were called a woman.
If there are more men who feel insulted – and I predict there will be – it almost certainly means some of the men in your group believe womanhood is inherently less than manhood. For the sake of this issue, I don’t ask if you are egalitarian or complementarian.
If some in your church or group has the view that womanhood is less than manhood, you need to preach the inherent equality that even complementarian confessions of faith pay lip service to.