Because Christianity is bigger than Biblical manhood or Biblical womanhood (Blog of Retha Faurie)

Because I said so! That's why.

Do you believe that some humans have a divine right? Do you think that the son of a king is born with a divine right to rule over others? That whites have a God-given right to rule over blacks?

Me neither. Oh, this have been coaxed in many nice terms in the past: “It is not a right to rule, it is a God-given responsibility to rule wisely.” Kristen, who often comments as KR Wordgazer on many sites, notices:

“God-given responsibility.” Yep. Just a euphemism for “divine right.” It also used to be called “the white man’s burden” and “noblesse oblige.”

Dress it up however you like, FoF. It’s still an assertion of the divine right …

There is, however, one area on which many people still believe in divine right: Evangelical masculists defend the divine right of males to rule females. I can state without a doubt that God does not give that right in any of the 66 books that make up the Bible. God does not, in any command in the Bible, give men as a group the right – or responsibility – to rule.*

Are we rebels who dislike authority when we don’t want men to rule women, or kings to rule, or whites to rule blacks? Once again, Kristen answers:

What complementarians don’t seem to understand is that egalitarians don’t object to authority per se. What we object to is “divine right.” Most modern Christians have rejected the notion of divine right in all areas but this one. We no longer agree with, “Because I was born royal, I have divine right to rule this country,” or “Because I was born an aristocrat, I have divine right to govern the peasants on my land.” We certainly don’t agree any more with “Because I am white, I have divine right to be served by those of other races.” We also reject the corollary, which is “keep your place.” “Because you were born a peasant, it is not your place to govern the land,” or “Because you are of the servant class (or of a “lesser race,”), it is not your place to take jobs outside the serving sphere.”

Most Christians now would agree that there is no such thing as “divine right” — that God has established earthly authorities, but no one can say, “Because of my birth, it’s my divine right to be one of those authorities.” Except in this area. Christians say, “Because I was born male, I have a right to be in authority over my wife in the home,” and “Because you were born female, it is not your place to take leadership beside your husband in the home, or to take leadership in the church over men [“over your betters” is implied here, although we don’t use that term anymore].”
I do agree that though God has established earthly authorities, God did not desire to do so in the church. Church leaders, yes– but not by “divine right.” Church authorities, no. Jesus said, “Not so among you.” I wish we would finally listen to Him.

I will contrast this with another quote about male rule:

“…say something like this:”Honey, I’ve made a terrible mistake. I’ve given you my role. I gave up leading this family, and I forced you to take my place. Now I must reclaim that role.”

Don’t misunderstand what I’m saying here. I’m not suggesting that you ask for your role back, I’m urging you to take it back.”

“…there can be no compromise here. If you’re going to lead, you must lead. Be sensitive. Listen. Treat the lady gently and lovingly. But lead!…Stop making your wives set the spiritual tone for your household. Assume the task of getting your family to church, and behave like a leader when you get there.”

– From Seven Promises of a Promise Keeper, Dr. Tony Evans. Italics by Dr. Tony Evans.

There are two ways to lead: By example, or by force. The apostles, and Jesus himself, led by example, and did not force anyone in society to listen to them. In fact, most of society chose not to become Christians. Is Dr. Tony Evans suggesting the setting of a good example? No. “Assume the task of getting your family to church” and “there can be no compromise”  is advice to force your will over others, not advice to set a followable example.**

If a man sets a followable example, I am fine with his family – or his employees, or whoever he comes into contact with, following. If a woman does the same, ditto. But forcing others to follow, as is assumed in Evans’ “reclaim leadership” advice? Here is what Christ has to say over the matter:

Mar 10:42-44 But Jesus called them to him, and saith unto them, Ye know that they which are accounted to rule over the Gentiles exercise lordship over them; and their great ones exercise authority upon them. But so shall it not be among you: but whosoever will be great among you, shall be your minister: And whosoever of you will be the chiefest, shall be servant of all.

A hierarchal male may want to use examples now of how society needs police authority, or some other such example of why forced rule is needed. But Kristen, once again, points out the more accurate comparison:

The difference, of course, is that with the police, government, employers, etc., the authority is limited and for a season, and is based upon qualifications, not one’s inherent nature. My employer has no authority over me after hours. The police have no authority over me as long as I’m law-abiding. I have a voice in the making of those laws and in the government.

In fact, if a policeman, my employer or my President came to my house and I asked them to leave, they’d have to do it! In my home, I have authority over them!

But the complementarian position makes the wife’s subordination equal to that of a slave. Her husband-master’s authority over her is unlimited, without scope, and for her entire life from the moment she marries him until death. This is why we equate husband-authority with slavery and not with these other forms of limited authority.



*The texts that, on face value, comes the closest to giving men the divine right to rule, are those 2 talking of the man as the head of the woman. But since the Greek word kephale, which we translate as head, is used for “source”or “beginning” when not literally referring to that thing above the neck, it does not mean what the English reader think it does.

**It is, moreover, futile advice: All the church attendance in the world will not make your family Christians. If you force your whole family to church, if you “set the spiritual tone”, you are not leading your family to Christ. Force cannot make anyone a Christian, only free will can.

Comments on: "Divine right? Leave that to Him who is divine" (5)

  1. Thanks for the wonderful tribute, Retha! I’m glad my words are of help to you and others.

    There is a grain of truth in what Evans says. Most wives like it when their husbands step up and take responsibility to lead in the home. Many men just let their wives do everything when it comes to things like getting the kids up and ready for church.

    But I believe Genesis 2:18, in calling the woman the man’s “ezer kenedgo” (literally, facing-him-strong-aid), intended the woman and man to share leadership of the home together. I know I’m happiest when my husband steps up and takes leadership, not over me, but beside me, so that we share in running the household, each according to our own strengths.

    Part of the problem with “divine right” is that it can lead to an attitude of privilege, of sitting back and expecting to be served. This has certainly been an issue with kings and aristocrats, and in race relations. Men should let go of their “divine right” to rule women, and its attendant privilege, and instead should step up to serve side-by-side with women in helping bring the kingdom of God.


  2. Kristen, I think the difference between your view and his lay in “share leadership of the home together”…


  3. […] her comment as today’s post.  You can also read what Retha, a reader of this blog, posted on her website in which she quotes […]


  4. Awesome, awesome post.


  5. HAWHAWHAW said:

    How dare you attack the Bible.


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