Because Christianity is bigger than Biblical manhood or Biblical womanhood (Blog of Retha Faurie)

On one patriarchal site, I once read a tirade about how there are no good women any more to marry. A few qualities of (what they call) good women were listed in their tirades. I found the tirade somewhat ironic. I was, in the light of what they said there, a good woman. And I, a “good woman”, hardly ever meet any good single Christian men.

I asked where good women could find good men. When the blog owner made a new post of the question, it got a flood of responses – they found it shocking that a woman could remain unmarried and claim she serve God. One woman, with good Christianese words and the nickname of Mrs Pilgrim, told me to advertise on e-Harmony for a wife-beating man. A “taken in hand relationship“, she called it. Nobody there contradicted her.

On that same patriarchal blog, a male once commented that he finds nothing wrong with beating his wife. “How else can I get her to do what I want?” he said. Which made me wonder: What should your wife do to you to get you to do what she wants?

And now here is the really crazy part: These same people, the only people who I ever read approving of wife beating believe, unlike most of society, they know better than their adult children who the child should marry. They call it “courtship.”

Oh, according to them, their children have the right to say no to the partner Daddy finds. But a young woman who was home schooled by her parents, who have to stay at home until she marry, often knows nothing except what her parents tell her. As such, it is a bounded choice. And, what is more, the young adult has no right – according to the lessons of the parents, given all her life  –  to choose a partner Mom and Dad disapprove of.

They can’t even see what is wrong with wife beating, but they regard themselves as qualified to choose a husband for their daughters? Go figure.

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I realize that this will look a lot more believable if I actually linked to these comments. But the blog Vox Popoli uses Cocomment, a system by which the old comments no longer appear and are not searchable with a search engine. My theory is that the blogger chose it on purpose, as actually being able to collect quotes from his patriarchal, mostly male readers would clearly show why “patriarchs” should not be allowed to rule anything.

Comments on: "When authority is in the hands of fools, who will protect their victims?" (3)

  1. If you read this and you are not from the background of “Biblical” patriarchy, this story may help you to believe a patriarchal parent could knowingly encourage their daughter to accept a cruel man:


  2. Kristen said:

    What should your wife do to you to get you to do what she wants?

    Good question. Another question I’d ask is, “Why do you need your wife to do what you want? Wouldn’t it be better if she wanted to do what you need?”


    • Kristen – you are absolutely right. Yours is the wiser question. When I read (read is past time, not present) that site, my first thought was how they constantly measured with two different scales: One for males, and one for females. So my continual state of mind, while on that site, was to insert the other gender into what they say, and see how okay they are with the same thing if the genders are different.


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